List of Contacts
A compassionate map
Creating a list of contacts is a particularly thoughtful part of planning your estate. It’s about gathering the names and details of those closest to you - family, dear friends, and even trusted colleagues - so your loved ones know exactly who to get in touch with when you’re no longer around. Instead of a cold, impersonal announcement on social media, this list offers a more gentle, direct way for your family and close friends to learn about your passing and reach out to those who meant the most to you.
Who needs to know?
By preparing a list of contacts, you’re giving your executors and family clear instructions on who to notify first. This can include neighbours who may have shared small daily moments with you, close family members who will need support, or friends who can help organise memorial details. Think of it as a personal network map that ensures important connections aren’t overlooked when emotions are running high. Don't worry about including literally everyone - it's more about who you think should be told personally by your closest family; beyond this group, word will naturally spread to your wider network, and for everyone else social media has its uses.
Note that this is about personal contacts, not companies, though I do suggest you include your GP and workplace contact details too, and - if you have one - your accountant, solicitor, nursery or home help / carer too.
Keep it updated
When you compile this list, make sure you include up-to-date phone numbers, email addresses, and even postal addresses if necessary. It’s a small extra step now that can prevent a lot of confusion later. By taking the time to create and securely store your contact list, you provide your loved ones with a clear, compassionate roadmap for who needs to be told, helping them navigate the initial shock of loss with a little more clarity and a lot less stress.
To help you, here's a handy version in Word:
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